Everything Happens for a Reason by Kate Bowler

Everything Happens for a Reason

A divinity professor and young mother with a Stage IV cancer diagnosis explores the pain and joy of living without certainty.Thirty-five-year-old Kate Bowler was a professor at the school of divinity at Duke, and had finally had a baby with her childhood sweetheart after years of trying, when she began to feel jabbing pains in her stomach. She lost thirty pounds, chugged antacid, and visited doctors for three months before she was finally diagnos...


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TitleEverything Happens for a Reason
ISBN9780399592065
Author
Release DateFeb 6th, 2018
PublisherRandom House
LanguageEnglish
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Religion, Biography, Biography Memoir
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Reviews Everything Happens for a Reason

  • Julie Ehlers
    2018-03-21
    Sorry to have to say this, but Everything Happens for a Reason is a mess. This short book is a memoir of Kate Bowler's Stage IV colon cancer and how her diagnosis flies in the face of the "prosperity gospel"—the notion espoused by some Christians that as long as you believe in God and think positively, good things will happen for you, and therefore if something bad happens it's kind of your own fault. Was Kate Bowler previously a devotee of the...
  • Bill Gates
    2018-05-21
    I spend my days asking “Why?” Why do people get stuck in poverty? Why do mosquitoes spread malaria? Being curious and trying to explain the world around us is part of what makes life interesting. It’s also good for the world—scientific discoveries happen because someone insisted on solving some mystery. And it’s human nature, as anyone who’s fielded an endless series of questions from an inquisitive 5-year-old can tell you.But as Kate...
  • Rebecca Foster
    2017-08-29
    This was the 2018 title I was most looking forward to reading, and it didn’t disappoint. I devoured it in one day. It combines two of my niche interests: medical (especially cancer) memoirs, and the prosperity gospel, a dubious theology I grew up with in the Pentecostal church my parents still attend in America. Indeed, Bowler’s previous book is a history of the prosperity gospel in America. Though she grew up surrounded by the Canadian Menno...
  • Canadian Reader
    2018-02-09
    Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved is a propulsive memoir about a young woman’s sudden, dramatic diagnosis of stage-four cancer after months, possibly years (the timeline is fuzzy), of inexplicable symptoms and innumerable, pointless appointments with medical specialists. Some might frame a personal narrative like Bowler’s in terms of the uncertainty of medical science, reflecting on the imperfection and limitations...
  • Davita
    2018-02-07
    I started this book in the waiting room at the dentist, which was a mistake, in part because I’m always about to cry at the dentist and also because the dentist does not deserve to witness my deep wonder. So I did what any reasonable person should and finished this book at home in bed on a slow morning. And gosh. I’m glad my roommates weren’t home because I oscillated between an ugly cry and a full belly laugh in the course of like three pa...
  • Michael
    2018-03-16
    Prior to reading this book, it was recommended to me by one of my good friends. We were discussing how we love to believe all the cliches such as: "Everything happens for a reason." Needless to say, I was very excited to read this, and by doing so, this has become my favorite book I read so far. Before I start my review, I am going to start of with some of my favorites quotes from the book."I wanted to make God to make me good and make me faithfu...
  • Samantha Price
    2018-02-18
    I feel like I get to be honest here. I don’t have to feel bad for this woman (although, I do), but I do feel like I can judge in a more non-biased view given my own Stage IV diagnosis. Every cancer memoir or article that is published is going to influence people’s view about our illness, mortality, etc. Here’s the thing - none of us can know what’s to come and religion won’t tell us the truth. To me, she explored (and over shared) her r...
  • Liz
    2018-02-17
    A portion of this book was striking in its special way of describing mundane aspects of life and how meaningful they are when you’ve got a terminal illness. However, its narrative style was absolutely jarring and so hard to follow. Also, I felt that a huge portion of the book was not relatable because of the author’s privileged background and narrow sample of demographics. I was hoping for a bit more reflection or insight on the topic of pros...
  • Ginny Tincher
    2018-02-12
    Please read this. It will wreck you in a good way.
  • Riva Sciuto
    2018-02-13
    At thirty-five years old, Kate Bowler returns home from the doctor one day with a Stage IV cancer diagnosis. This disrupts her entire universe, forcing her reevaluate her longstanding belief that God has a plan for all of us and that everything happens for a reason. This is particularly challenging for a Divinity professor who grew up in a Mennonite community in which all things -- good and evil -- are attributed to "God's plan."And that's why I ...
  • Julie
    2018-04-23
    Kate Bowler's own story of a terminal diagnosis and the road she's traveled amongst good intentions while fighting for her life and her faith. Beautiful, raw, inspiring, and convicting. “What would it mean for Christians to give up that little piece of the American Dream that says, "You are limitless"? Everything is not possible. The mighty kingdom of God is not yet here. What if 'rich' did not have to mean 'wealthy', and 'whole' did not have t...
  • Cherie Lowe
    2017-12-29
    This book should be required reading for anyone who will die or knows someone who will die. Hint: that's all of us. Kate Bowler reminds us of the thin thread of mortality, struggling through the doubts and questions any person of faith considers when contemplating the meaning of life and the purpose (if any) of suffering. While weighty in concept, this book holds in tandem a bright optimism grounded with a gritty reality. A horror story collides ...
  • Victoria
    2018-01-31
    I received an ARC from the publisher for review. This book was a bit heart-wrenching, the story of Kate Bowler's cancer diagnosis and grappling with her own mortality. I have to rate it a little lower because the narrative style was jarring to me - Bowler skipped around so much that I kept having to reread parts of the story because all of a sudden we were in a different tense, or timeline. Some good lessons in here, and be warned, there's lots o...
  • Victoria
    2018-04-07
    I read most of this book through tears. There were definitely some ugly-cry moments and also laugh-out-loud moments. I listened to Kate Bowler’s Fresh Air interview before I started this, and so I could hear her voice clearly as I was reading. A beautiful book on faith in the absence of certainty, and also about love and community and how not to be a d**k when someone you love is experiencing tragedy and grief. This is definitely a book I would...
  • Dustin
    2018-02-26
    This is the book I needed to read right now. Perhaps I'm not a fully objective reviewer. My mom passed away recently and I wanted to read something that discussed grief, but also the cliches that Christians bandy about. Bowler does a great job at telling her story and owning it, while not expecting others to have the same story. This definitely is a work that fits in nicely with Randy Pausch's The Last Lecture, Paul Kalanathi's When Breath Become...
  • Heather Fineisen
    2017-10-09
    You know you connect with an author when you finish reading their work and immediately look for more. I just ordered Blessed, Bowler' s book on prosperity religion. Everything Happens for a Reason references Blessed but focuses on the Author's cancer diagnosis and treatment. Many good tips on how to support someone with terminal illness. An interesting look at the big questions grappled with during debilitating times.Copy provided by the Publishe...
  • Lisa
    2018-03-27
    This book is all I can think about right now—the mix of scholarship and faith and personal trauma. I share so many friends in common with her and so it seems close. I respect so much her persisting and not “skipping to the end”. Her resistance to making meaning except that “trust often feels like love” and her ability to find and celebrate that love are truly amazing.
  • Lisa Lewton
    2018-03-03
    Kate Bowler is a delightful human being. Very real, honest, and insightful about the stupid things people say to those who suffer. The appendix is the best part with very practical suggestions about what not to and what to say.
  • Jodi
    2018-04-17
    There were a few take aways - life lessons if you will - that I will carry with me after reading this book. 1. Live in Ordinary Time: I am extremely guilty of always planning - the next project, the next vacation, the next meal etc. I need to stop more often and enjoy this moment, this day, this time. 2. Sometimes there is no "right thing" to say to someone: silence and the truth can have much more of an impact than trying to fill a void with say...
  • Karol
    2018-03-11
    Have you ever wondered why bad things happen? Are you at a loss about what to say to friends going through a hard time? For me this book comes as close to explaining the unexplainable as anything I’ve read. It’s real, it’s incredibly moving, and I couldn’t stop reading it.
  • Elizabeth
    2018-07-18
    ...But most everyone I meet is dying to make me certain. they want me to know, without a doubt, that there is hidden logic to this seeming chaos. Even when I was still in the hospital, a neighbor came to the door and told my husband that everything happens for a reason. "I'd love to hear it," he replied."Pardon?" she said, startled. "The reason my wife is dying," he said...platitudes, man. just stop talking.kate bowler was 35 years old when she f...
  • Malak
    2018-07-24
    listening to Kate's soothing voice, i'm so glad the paper copy of this book have more than 100 hold at the library that i was "forced" to listen to the audiobook. Kate is honest, funny and real. I salute her for making the audio book without sobbing reading the parts about her family, parent, husband and son, i know i was ... :'(
  • Fr. Ted
    2018-02-10
    Having survived lung cancer, a lobectomy, chemotherapy and an experimental chemo study, this book sounded interesting to me. I heard the author interviewed and thought I would read it. I would say her life and personality are quite different from mine - the author is a woman and extroverted so she sees everything from that point of view. The best part of the book was her own description of dealing with people endlessly aiming to be helpful. I cou...
  • Nicole
    2018-06-15
    Two things surprised me about this memoir. 1) The author, who is a professor of divinity, did not talk about Jesus, faith, salvation, Scripture, or heaven and 2) the author stayed pretty surfacey and vague throughout the book. I suppose she was referring to her anger about her cancer diagnosis when she took up swearing for Lent, but, all in all, she mostly rehashed what she had researched about the Prosperity Gospel Movement for her first book. I...
  • Kate
    2018-04-25
    This is the lowest rating I’ve ever given a book on Goodreads, and one of the few books I’ve read in my life that I can say I truly despised. It’s remarkable to me that someone who had a terminal illness could be so disparaging, dismissive, and disrespectful of medical providers and nurses. I couldn’t even get in to the overall message of the book because I was so flabbergasted at the jabs, insults, generalizations, and cliches that she k...
  • steph
    2018-05-13
    Eh.It's not the best cancer/facing death memoir I've read in the last few years but its certainly not the worst either. Kate's thoughts were a bit all over the place but I still enjoyed her voice. She had a few good quotes/realizations about living and dying but I probably wouldn't read it again though.
  • Kate
    2018-05-25
    3.5/5This is a memoir telling of the author’s experience with stage four colorectal cancer and her faith. It was rather disjointed and I felt like the book jumped around in a disorganized way.
  • Jessica
    2018-04-18
    I loved this for throwing out all the tired cliches that we tell people when they are going through hard things. Life is hard. The best way to make it through is one day at a time while trying to stay present. One of my favorite quotes: "Nothing human or divine can map out this life." Five stars to the Appendix that points out exactly what you should and should not say to someone going through a huge trial.
  • Celeste Caso
    2018-05-28
    This book just wasn’t for me. Filled with judgments and complaints. My recommendation is to skip to Appendix 1 and 2 for what to say and not say to people who are suffering, and skip the rest. This was much more a religious book than a cancer memoir. If you’re expecting the latter you’ll likely be disappointed.