Not That Bad by Roxane Gay

Not That Bad

Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on.In this valuable and revealing anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what it means to live in a world where women have to measure the harassment, vi...

Details Not That Bad

TitleNot That Bad
Release DateMay 1st, 2018
PublisherHarper Perennial
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Writing, Essays

Reviews Not That Bad

  • Emily (Books with Emily Fox)
    We tell ourselves it’s not that bad. We’re told we’re angry women.It is that bad. I am angry. We should be.
  • Emily May
    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book about rape and rape culture. Some of the stories are empowering, some are depressing, but all talk about important aspects of the world we live in. Many of the writers ex...
  • Hannah
    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear with me while I work through my feelings.It comes as no surprise that Roxane Gay is my hero. When this anthology arrived on my doorstep (I had preordered it months a...
  • Thomas
    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence and harassment. I appreciate the diversity in Not That Bad, both of the writers’ experiences as well as their identities, as the collection includes women of col...
  • Scott
    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Frame and 'Picture Perfect' by Sharisse Tracey - both extremely heartbreaking) to the ugly side of the American entertainment industry (actress Ally Sheedy's timely '...
  • Monica
    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture.  Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attitudes have the effect of normalizing or trivializing sexual assault and abuse. Multiple points of view are explored here (though only from the victim perspective).  The...
  • Malia
    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly illuminating. I did think it was good to include authors with such a wide array of backgrounds and that not each experience was rape, but each experience did show t...
  • Schizanthus
    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn’t that bad? No. It was that bad but we still live in a world that, on the whole, doesn’t want to know about sexual assault.It doesn’t quite feel right to say I have a favou...
  • Rachel León
    This book should be required reading.
  • Dannii Elle
    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead.This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking but powerful and necessary read.Roxane Gay introduced this collection by relaying her own experiences with rape culture. What she encountered afterwards became a commo...
  • BookOfCinz
    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned—all of it becomes irrelevant, even nonexistent." I felt so deeply for everyone who contributed. We are all fighting this battle and now more than ever we need to speak out. Required reading.
  • Maggie Wrobel
    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It’s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis.Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave, strong women who lent their voices to it.
  • Rose
    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how our society frames the experiences of many who suffer at the hands of these experiences as "not that bad" - pervasive cultural and societal minimization in experie...
  • Latanya (CraftyScribbles)
    Rape and rape culture's not that bad.Right?Yes. It is that bad.In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally Sheedy, and Anthony Frame serve as narrators. Nothing's clean. Nothing's politically correct to protect the senses of rapists, molesters, and their enablers. A purging of pain and...
  • Chris
    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk of the collection are personal essays, most of those are about writers who have survived rape. Which is fine, but those personal essays, by and large, are also about com...
  • MissSugarTown
    I read 50% of the book, I can’t read more.
  • Ariadne
    This collection of essays addressing rape culture is deeply personal, insightful, and at times scathing and raw. There were several pieces in here that have stuck with me, and I know will continue to do so for years to come. I could relate to almost every essay - the specifics were different, but the feelings were so often very much the same. The title, Not That Bad, echoes through these experiences as a connective thread. Almost every survivor i...
  • Elizabeth
    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening.
  • Xavier (CharlesXplosion)
    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience.
  • xTx xTx
    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with both hands.
  • Katie
    “Because when others serially talk down to you, assume authority over you, try to talk you out of your own feelings and tell you who you are; when you’re not taken seriously or listened to in countless daily interactions—then you may learn to accept it, to expect it, to agree with the critics and the haters and the beloveds, and to sign off on it with total silence. Because they’re coming from a good place.”This book is about more than ...
  • Marlena
    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful.Rape has been in the headlines a lot lately and I'm happy the subject is being brought to light. No longer should it be taboo or something brushed under the rug. These are people's lives th...
  • Selene Matheson
    Biannual Bibliothon July 14, 2018 - July 20, 2018Challenge #5 - Own Voices
  • Kim Anguish
    This was an incredibly difficult read, but so so necessary. These stories were told with eloquence and honesty. Everyone should read this right now.
  • Susan Bazzett-Griffith
    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of determination, is just as palpable, if not more, than the trauma that the writers have been through. Redemption isn't the point- the point is the universality of the rap...
  • Rebecca
    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review.How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoyable reading- this is essential, brutal, truthful writing about rape and assault, and the deeply personal ways in which those who experience it are affected- days, wee...