Not That Bad by Roxane Gay

Not That Bad

Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on.In this valuable and revealing anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what it means to live in a world where women have to measure the harassment, vi...


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TitleNot That Bad
ISBN9780062413505
Author
Release DateMay 1st, 2018
PublisherHarper Perennial
LanguageEnglish
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Writing, Essays
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Reviews Not That Bad

  • Emily (Books with Emily Fox)
    2018-05-20
    We tell ourselves it’s not that bad. We’re told we’re angry women.It is that bad. I am angry. We should be.
  • Emily May
    2017-06-14
    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book about rape and rape culture. Some of the stories are empowering, some are depressing, but all talk about important aspects of the world we live in. Many of the writers ex...
  • Hannah
    2018-05-09
    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear with me while I work through my feelings.It comes as no surprise that Roxane Gay is my hero. When this anthology arrived on my doorstep (I had preordered it months a...
  • Thomas
    2018-07-16
    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence and harassment. I appreciate the diversity in Not That Bad, both of the writers’ experiences as well as their identities, as the collection includes women of col...
  • Raeleen Lemay
    2019-01-09
    A tough read, but important and necessary.
  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    2018-10-19
    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."⠀⠀This also will probably be valuable to people who haven't been able to share their own stories but can find comfort in not being alone. These personal essays are not all by straight women, so that adds a necessary diversity ...
  • da AL
    2018-09-27
    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend.
  • Malia
    2018-07-12
    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly illuminating. I did think it was good to include authors with such a wide array of backgrounds and that not each experience was rape, but each experience did show t...
  • Schizanthus
    2018-06-21
    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn’t that bad? No. It was that bad but we still live in a world that, on the whole, doesn’t want to know about sexual assault.It doesn’t quite feel right to say I have a favou...
  • Scott S.
    2018-05-24
    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Frame and 'Picture Perfect' by Sharisse Tracey - both extremely heartbreaking) to the ugly side of the American entertainment industry (actress Ally Sheedy's timely '...
  • Monica
    2018-07-11
    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture.  Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attitudes have the effect of normalizing or trivializing sexual assault and abuse. Multiple points of view are explored here (though only from the victim perspective).  The...
  • Nadia
    2018-09-15
    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't like it but because it is not an easy read. Each story in Not That Bad is written by someone who experienced rape or sexual abuse in some form. There is suffering, pain,...
  • Vanessa
    2018-12-02
    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this as it was a library book with an impending due date, but I think I was by the last 25% not really engaging as much as I would have liked with the content. And these ...
  • Rachel León
    2018-05-25
    This book should be required reading.
  • Claire
    2018-12-29
    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading.
  • Dannii Elle
    2018-08-23
    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead.This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking but powerful and necessary read.Roxane Gay introduced this collection by relaying her own experiences with rape culture. What she encountered afterwards became a commo...
  • BookOfCinz
    2018-08-03
    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned—all of it becomes irrelevant, even nonexistent." I felt so deeply for everyone who contributed. We are all fighting this battle and now more than ever we need to speak out. Required reading.
  • Sabrina
    2018-10-06
    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture.
  • Maggie Wrobel
    2018-03-13
    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It’s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis.Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave, strong women who lent their voices to it.
  • Chris
    2018-06-02
    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk of the collection are personal essays, most of those are about writers who have survived rape. Which is fine, but those personal essays, by and large, are also about com...
  • Rose
    2018-05-30
    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how our society frames the experiences of many who suffer at the hands of these experiences as "not that bad" - pervasive cultural and societal minimization in experie...
  • Katie.dorny
    2018-09-10
    This just sent me in a fucking whirlwind. Read this book. I can’t provide a review of this book that gives it justice.Roxanne Gay is a fierce fucking force of nature who I now adore.
  • Latanya (CraftyScribbles)
    2018-06-22
    Rape and rape culture's not that bad.Right?Yes. It is that bad.In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally Sheedy, and Anthony Frame serve as narrators. Nothing's clean. Nothing's politically correct to protect the senses of rapists, molesters, and their enablers. A purging of pain and...
  • Katie
    2018-08-18
    “Because when others serially talk down to you, assume authority over you, try to talk you out of your own feelings and tell you who you are; when you’re not taken seriously or listened to in countless daily interactions—then you may learn to accept it, to expect it, to agree with the critics and the haters and the beloveds, and to sign off on it with total silence. Because they’re coming from a good place.”This book is about more than ...
  • Samuel
    2018-10-11
    "How many times did you say no? I've realized I maybe no longer need anyone to think it was bad enough, I don't need to prove I'm worthy of pity or help. I don't need you to feel sorry for me. What I need is what most women need when they talk about the sexual violence they've endured. I need someone to listen, I need someone to believe me. Whenever I tell the story I say 16, even though now I know once was enough."I read this at the exact time a...
  • xTx xTx
    2018-04-29
    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with both hands.