A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum

A Woman Is No Man

This debut novel by an Arab-American voice,takes us inside the lives of conservative Arab women living in America.In Brooklyn, eighteen-year-old Deya is starting to meet with suitors. Though she doesn’t want to get married, her grandparents give her no choice. History is repeating itself: Deya’s mother, Isra, also had no choice when she left Palestine as a teenager to marry Adam. Though Deya was raised to believe her parents died in a car acc...

Details A Woman Is No Man

TitleA Woman Is No Man
Release DateMar 5th, 2019
GenreFiction, Historical, Historical Fiction, Contemporary

Reviews A Woman Is No Man

  • Etaf Rum
    I'd like to thank everyone who's taken the time to read. Regardless of whether you loved the book or hated it, thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts here.
  • Nilufer Ozmekik
    This book like a gun blast to my chest, ripped my emotions and scatter them all over the places.This book made me sooo angry, this book made me cry, this book made me curse, hate the characters, made me feel sorry for the unfairness, inequality, ignorance ! There was not any exaggeration, there are too many women in the world suffering the rules from patriarchal culture, customs, illogical traditions made them feel vulnerable, worthless and weak....
  • Will Byrnes
    I was born without a voice, one cold, overcast day in Brooklyn, New York. No one ever spoke of my condition. I did not know I was mute until years later, when I’d opened my mouth to ask for what I wanted and realized no one could hear me. Deya Ra’Ad, a Brooklyn teenager, had been raised by people who guarded old-world beliefs and customs. It was expected of her that she would agree to marry one of the Muslim suitors who passed her family’s ...
  • Leena Weddy
    THIS BOOK. Holy shit. To be completely honest, even as a Palestinian Muslim who has spent her entire life unapologetically refusing to abide by patriarchal norms, the concept of this book scared me. So honest and raw, but so public. Muslims & all POC know too well that you don’t air your dirty laundry. You don’t talk about all your shit in front of outsiders. Even if it comes at the expense of your community’s advancement, you deny that the...
  • Robin
    This Book is No Literary Masterpiece A Woman Is No Man definitely did not come close to meeting my expectations. While the subject matter is indeed worthy (the oppression of women in the Arab culture) and the story full of potential (the voiced experiences of three generations of Palestinian women) I feel I have just read something of sub-par quality.From the first chapter, I could not shed the impression that I was reading a mediocre YA novel, n...
  • Justin Tate
    The plot isn't creative and the writing dexterity is limited, but it gives voice to a largely voiceless population. Arab women so rarely show up in literature that hearing a story--any story--from their perspective feels fresh and exciting, even when the general premise is tired.I can appreciate, too, that this isn't just about Arab women, it also seems to be written directly for them. One of the leads is forced to sneak around to read books beca...
  • Diane S ☔
    A look inside an embedded patriarchal culture. Isra loves to read, books show her a wider world than the insular one where she lives. Custom, however, dictates that women cannot continue with their schooling but must marry instead. When a Palestinian family, one who now make their home in New York, travel back to Palestine to find a bride for their eldest son, Isra finds herself married. She wants to fall in love, to be loved and to have more fre...
  • Kelly (and the Book Boar)
    Find all of my reviews at: http://52bookminimum.blogspot.com/ Let me begin by saying that after my last experience with an internet famous "author" (term used as loosely as possible since she didn’t even write the thing, but failed to give credit where credit was due until being called out about it), there is zero chance I would have ever read this. Unfortunately, I’m not super hip on the times and as soon as I saw this was going to be a Book...
  • Karen
    This is a heartbreaking story of three generations of Palestinian-American women in one family..who have been oppressed by their culture. Trying to find a voice in their world dominated by men.This was a deeply affecting novel, a fantastic debut..and I loved it!
  • Fatma
    1.5 starswow this just completely missed the mark huh I'm so starved for any kind of Arab representation in fiction, let alone ownvoices Muslim Arab representation, so I jumped at the chance to read this when the audiobook popped up on Scribd. And oh boy was I disappointed. This book's biggest weakness is without a doubt its lack of nuance. I don't want to be the person that's like oh the oppression you represented in your book isn't complicate...
  • Jen
    This is one of those stories that will dig in deep and make you want to scream at these cultures that undervalue women. We know we are different -physically - but that’s where it stops.Putting my anger aside, this is a beautifully written story of 2 Women who have migrated to America from Palestine and a daughter born in America.The struggle of upholding traditional customs while assimilating into a new culture.Rum captures voices of traditions...
  • Jennifer ~ TarHeelReader
    Sometimes you read a book and you have no idea where to start because your emotions are all over the place? Am I right? But I also want to write my review now because my emotions are fresh, and this book was an emotional ride from start to finish. Told in two past timelines with different narrators, we mostly hear from eighteen-year-old Deya, and her mother, Isra. We also occasionally hear from Fareeda, Deya’s grandmother and Isra’s mot...
  • Hannah
    I think this book is about how women are oppressed? Maybe? It’s mentioned only 20 times on every page, so it’s a little unclear. I hope the sarcasm there is as transparent as this book’s message. Bad, heavy-handed writing reads like what a beginner creative writing student produces. HERE IS MY THEME, it announces. HERE IS MY MESSAGE. MY CHARACTERS TAKE A BACK SEAT TO MY SOCIAL COMMENTARY. Not sure how this has such a high rating on Goodread...
  • Cheri
    ”Where I come from, voicelessness is the condition of my gender, as normal as the bosoms on a woman’s chest, as necessary as the next generation growing inside her belly.” ”Where I come from, we’ve learned to conceal our condition. We’ve been taught to silence ourselves, that our silence will save us. It is only now, many years later, that I know this to be false. Only now, as I write this story, do I feel my voice coming.” ”You...
  • Michelle
    Prepare to feel conflicted.If you liked my last inner dialogue review, you're in luck because this is going to be a long mess. (My thoughts that is.)Let's talk a little bit about me. I'm 37, white, of Russian/German/French/Swedish/Irish/Canadian descent, born and raised in Buffalo, NY. I'm a progressive, have a graduate degree and am part of the middle class. (Whatever that means anymore.) The reason for the bio is that I could not be further awa...
  • Amy Bruestle
    ****SPOILER ALERT****I want to start off by saying that I was fortunate enough to have won this book from a giveaway in exchange for an honest review...3.5 stars is my rating for this book, here’s why:The concept for this book alone is definitely 5-star worthy! Stories like Isra’s and Deya’s need to be told more often, as there really isn’t much literature out there about the struggles Arabic women have faced and are currently facing! But...
  • Stacey A. Prose and Palate
    “On her knees on the floor, she could barely breathe. Blood leaked from her nose and down her chin. But she wiped her face and told herself she would take a beating every night if it meant standing up for her girls.”Every now and then a book comes along that impacts me so much it changes who I am as a reader and as a person. It leaves me reeling, it haunts me, it compels me to dig deeper, to stop everyone I know and tell them “if you only r...
  • Kathleen
    Pressure. I can’t even conceive of the pressure immigrant Arab women must live under. Rum is the daughter of Palestinian immigrants herself, and like her character Deya Ra’Ad she was born and raised in Brooklyn in a Palestinian-Arab enclave. The pressure to maintain Palestinian customs and its patriarchal culture is suffocating. Rum has chosen to expose the burden this places on women, despite the fact that it plays into certain anti-Arab ste...
  • Lisa
    The cover, title and preface of A Woman Is No Man are very striking and I was drawn into the pages immediately. Set in Brooklyn, the novel is about the voiceless women in a Palestinian immigrant family. The story felt familiar, I have read so many novels about the oppressed lives of women living within insular communities - Orthodox Jewish, Morman, Saudi Arabian etc. But Rum has created the story anew. She captures the trapped doom of Isra perfec...
  • Lark Benobi
    Oppressively earnest. And clearly not for me. I got irritated from the first paragraph, a paragraph that includes the--i'm sorry--completely portentous and unforgivable sentence But we will never tell you this of course; even though the narrator has just told me this thing that she "of course" will never tell me. There are so many readers here on GR whom I admire, and who have the capability of rising above the actual words on the page and discov...
  • Alex
    Nope. Had to DNF. This was wrong on so many levels. It starts with a premise I was excited about, looking at the Palestinian diaspora but disappointed on all levels. The characters are caricatures, there is no subtlety just hammer the heads of the readers with the themes of misogyny and the plight of women in Muslim/Arab American families, but falls back on the worst stereotypes to convey the point. these are issues I want explored but I could no...
  • Justin
    Good lord, this is a powerful little book. I listened to it, and it’s narrated by three different women, and something about hearing the emotion in their voices as the dialogue unfolded made things much more intense than if I had just read the words off the page. It’s a story about a culture I’m honestly not very familiar with, but boy did a learn a lot listening to this. It’s fiction, sure, but it opened my eyes to a world I didn’t kno...
  • may ❀
    book #2 for #ReadTheMiddleEast readathon to say i am conflicted is to put it lightlyi have A LOT of thoughts but fjkldajfkal will i write this review or not????? stay tuned to find out!!! book #2 for #ReadTheMiddleEast readathon ✓to say i am conflicted is to put it lightlyi have A LOT of thoughts but fjkldajfkal will i write this review or not????? stay tuned to find out!!!
  • Jessica Jeffers
    What an absolutely remarkable novel.
  • Ace
    You’ve never heard this story before. No matter how many books you’ve read, how many tales you know, believe me: no one has ever told you a story like this one.This is simply not true and to read this in the prologue makes me think that I am about to read something unique and powerful but sadly, this tale is so old and so common. (view spoiler)[Some gripes first:I wanted to be an imam growing up, you know. A priest. A Muslim person would not ...
  • Jennifer Blankfein
    . This is an incredible story about three generations of Palestinians Who have come to the United States for a better life. A powerful story about women and family - it definitely tugs on the heartstrings...Gender Roles, Arranged Marriages and the Challenges Immigrant Families Face; A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum Captures the Love and Pain in these Arab Women’s Limitations. READ FULL REVIEW HERE...https://booknationbyjen.com/2019/10/1...
  • Barbara
    “A Woman is No Man’ is an examination on the cycle/chain of dysfunction. Debut Author Etaf Rum states in her prologue that no one of her background, an Arab/Palestine first generation immigrant has told their story because their culture is one of silence. Rum writes a story that is not autobiographical, but one that contains events that happened to her fellow neighbors. As an Arab, their culture is one that men rule, women accept their dimini...